Question: I am struggling with a decision on IVF. My wife and
I have been trying to have a baby for quite a while now, but nothing has
happened. We have been prayed for on numerous occasions, but still
nothing. My wife has started an IVF program, of which I am not happy due
to moral issues. I side with the Catholic Church on this one, though I
am not a catholic any more.
Answer: Before we discuss the ethical implications of IVF, may
I point out something important? You and your wife should deal with this
problem together as a married couple to arrive at a common decision.
Otherwise, you may end up hurting one other and drifting apart.
I understand that the psychological stress on both of you must be
very great; the desire for a woman to have a child may be overwhelming
(I am reminded of Sarah, Hannah and Elizabeth). Ultimately, this is a
spiritual matter between both of you and God. You ought to pray; you
should also be willing to accept His answer, whether it is a “yes”
or a “no”. God may also lead you to an alternative solution: to
remain childless, to foster or adopt a child.
Keep in mind that children are a gift from God; children are not a
right or privilege to be fought for at all costs. “Behold, children
are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward”
(Psalm 127:3). Therefore you are justified to seek medical assistance
only insofar as it is consistent with the Law of God and the teaching
of the Scripture on the sanctity of human life from its beginning at
conception.
IVF involves the women taking a fertility drug to help her produce
more eggs and a hormone drug to prepare the womb for pregnancy. The eggs
are then harvested and fertilised in the laboratory; the embryos are
then placed inside the womb.
In the circumstances in which it is regularly practised, IVF involves
the formation of more embryos than could be transferred into the womb.
The extra embryos are either discarded or frozen. Also, in some centres IVF often
results in twins or triplets. This is associated with a high risk of
premature birth, neurological and developmental problems, and even
death. For this reason, some clinics practice “selective reduction”
- reducing the number of children the woman is carrying by aborting one
or more of them.
Clearly, IVF cannot be morally justified when it involves the
destruction of human life. Also, the freezing of embryos is contrary to the
parental responsibility for their offspring and the respect due to human beings
by exposing them to grave risks of death or physical harm and depriving them of
maternal shelter and natural development. On the other hand, IVF is ethically acceptable if only one or two
embryos are produced, and all of them are transferred to the uterus.
May God give you and your wife a strong conviction to be obedient to
His Word, hoping He would grant you the desire of your hearts. Whatever
His answer, be faithful to God and you will be richly rewarded.